13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do by Amy Morin

13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do by Amy Morin

Author:Amy Morin
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: HarperCollins
Published: 2018-12-30T16:00:00+00:00


Gossip Can Feel Good

Whether you tell your coworkers you heard the boss is having an affair, or you and your girlfriends talk about the one friend who wasn’t able to attend your gathering, gossiping can be fun. And studies show that it can even make you feel good.

A 2012 study conducted by researchers at the University of California, Berkeley, found that spreading gossip can actually decrease your stress level—but only when it’s “prosocial gossip.”

The study examined what happened when participants witnessed someone cheating during an economic game. Those who discovered the cheater experienced a spike in heart rate. But as soon as they told someone else what they’d witnessed, their heart rates returned to normal.

The authors concluded that people felt better when they were warning others about the cheater. They thought telling someone could prevent that individual from being taken advantage of.

So, warning someone about a potential scammer could be good for you and good for the listener. But sometimes, it’s easy to convince yourself that sharing damaging information about others is somehow making the world a better place, even if that’s not quite the case.

Warning a woman that her boyfriend (who happens to be your ex) is a loser might not exactly have a prosocial purpose. And being the first to tell your friends about the latest rumor you heard might not actually be a humanitarian effort.

Instead, your willingness to spread gossip might be about giving a temporary boost to your status. You might feel powerful when you’re the first one to have a bit of juicy news. You might also feel as if spreading some not-so-nice news about others might boost your status in the eyes of the group.

Gossip can also be a way to bond. Perhaps you have a core group of coworkers who love to share the latest workplace rumors. It might make you feel like a select group and help separate you from the rest of the workers.



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